MESSAGE – FRIDAY
FAMILY 3/8
HUSBAND’S ROLE 1/2

1. HIERARCHICAL POSITION OF THE HUSBAND – Ephesians 5:23 & 1 Corinthians 11:3 River of authority:

1-God: above all and everyone;

2-Woman: She is a daughter of God;
3-Children: are given to parents and are the responsibility of both;

4-Work: to provide;

5-Everything else: friends, hobbies, etc.;

2. GOD PLACED THE HUSBAND AS LEADER OF THE FAMILY
The husband is the leader of his family and will give an account to God, being a representative of Jesus in the family.

Leading is not doing your own will, but what is best for your family, always setting an example.

If there is no agreement, the final decision rests with the husband, always thinking about the well-being of the whole family/the future.

Not leading, doing nothing, or letting the wife/children lead will open doors for the enemy.

3. LEVELS OF LEADERSHIP
The husband is called to grow in leadership, advancing through different levels. At each stage he must earn respect instead of just demanding it:

1-Positional leader: given by God;

2-Permission leader: earned by loving his wife;

3-Production leader: earned by building/leading the family;

4-Reproduction leader: earned by raising children in the ways of God;

5-Respect leader: highest level;

To grow in leadership, the husband must:

1-Love his wife – Ephesians 5:25, 28, 33

2-Build and lead the marriage;

3-Raise the children;

Love is not about allowing everything (bad company for one’s wife and/or children).

Love is about thinking about eternal life in the people who are part of that family.

4-BANK OF LOVE
Each person has a love account in the heart of another person. In this account, one can deposit or withdraw coins/bills.

The balance of this account can be positive, negative, or even almost closed.

• When there are good attitudes, good actions, and good words, the balance grows.

• When there are bad attitudes, bad actions, and bad words, the balance falls.

God’s law, of sowing to reap, does not exist to have “my” needs met. But rather, it has the purpose of being able to sow in the life of the spouse (meet their needs). Men and women are different and therefore have different needs.

The wife has emotional needs, and it is up to the husband to meet them. Among other needs is:

-affection (romance, saying “I love you,” praising, asking for forgiveness, giving gifts, etc.);

– Conversation (sharing things, building bonds, etc.)

– Family commitment (taking on the role of husband and father);

5- TYPES OF HUSBAND

There are 3 types of husband:

a) Husband who continues the single life: doesn’t care about family and only thinks about his friends and hobbies;

b) Husband who is like a son: is present, but doesn’t take the lead, where the woman is leading, providing for, and educating the family. Sometimes he doesn’t even work;

c) Husband who is a leader: has family commitment, is present, and has taken the leadership of his family.

The woman must understand that her husband is not perfect, as he has to grow in leadership and this will take time.